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Kat & Kyle’s 

Punk rock backyard wedding party

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WEDDING COUPLE:   Kat Monroe, Kyle Zemblidge

INSTAGRAM NAMES: @mskatmonroe  @kz_anrchy

WEDDING DATE: May 19, 2019

WEDDING LOCATION: Sunset Beach, California

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WHERE DID YOU MEET:  We originally met in April of 2014, when I had booked his band at a local music venue I was working at. He was scheduled to play later that evening, but arrived early.

We had plenty of time to socialize through out the evening, when he first introduced himself, we both knew that there was an immediate attraction. Unknown to me at the time, he had looked through one of my social media pages. (He claims in research of the show and venue) He discovered that I would frequently walk on the beach. He jokingly made a comment, “I like to take walks on the beach”, with a smile. Fumbling for a response all I could manage to spit out was. “I’m going in the morning”. I honestly couldn’t believe that I said that, it just came out, before I could stop myself. Looking back on it, it was the best decision I ever made.

Initially, we were both apprehensive of calling our dating, a relationship, or even dating for that matter. I think it was about a year, before someone pulled me aside and said, “Kat”, I gotta tell you something, “Kyle’s your boyfriend”. I said “Nope’, turned around and ran away. Kyle and I later talked about that comment and essentially came to terms that we were in deed a couple.

I can’t explain it any other way than we were both just comfortable with the idea. When we first discussed the idea of marriage, he brought it up, I couldn’t tell if he was joking or serious, but he threw out the idea of proposing to me at a show he was going to play at the Whiskey a Go Go in Hollywood. I still wasn’t sure if he was serious, but there was plenty of time for me to gauge the seriousness of this… I thought.

Little did I know he had other plans, several months before that particular performance, we went out for our usual date night and had decided for karaoke at the Queen Mary. He was acting kind of funny, but not in a bad way. He did a rendition of Stray Cat’s Strut, and I noticed he was fidgety with his pocket, but at the time I didn’t really think much about it, other than “Oh my gosh he is actually singing this song to me.”

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After we wandered around the ship for quite sometime until it was pretty late. On the way home, all I could really remember was how tired I was. It was about 2 in the morning, he pulls up to the beach, where we have walked together so many times before. I was exhausted and said. “Why are we at the beach I wanna go home to bed” He replied something about having to see the moon. So we got out of the car and I followed him onto the sand out by the waters edge. And before I knew it he turned around and got down on one knee and proposed. Mind you this is that same beach that we took that first walk on, how could I say no?

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WEDDING THEME: Punk rock backyard party

THE WEDDING DAY:  We wanted something that encompassed everything that was dear to us, so we had to decided to perform the ceremony itself on our beach.

For the reception we wanted to be a true back yard party, and a good friend of ours lives at the beach, she lent us her house and yard. it was literally steps from the place of the ceremony on the beach. It couldn’t of worked out more perfect.

The only concern was making sure that Kyle grandmother, who has limited mobility would be able to view the ceremony on the sand. The day of, he took his time and with a help of a few friends they had her on the beach.

On the eve of the wedding day, I woke up to the sound of pouring rain. I started to panic. I thought even if it stopped the backyard and everything would be muddy and wet. It continued to rain off and on until about 9am, when I made my way to the house to get ready for the big day.

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My makeup artist, dressmaker, and maid of honor met me there to assist me. It remained overcast until about noon. The ceremony was scheduled for 2pm. I was so nervous, not even sure why. Fortunately the sky started clearing to the point of beautiful blue sky and almost no visible clouds.

Everyone gathered at the house prior to the ceremony and I was peeking through the bedroom window looking at everyone arrive, as I was getting ready. My nerves were on edge. The ceremony was to be officiated by Rikk Agnew, (of the bands Christian Death, D.I. and The Adolescents) He is a friend of ours and it made it super special to have him there.

Kyle and my children gathered everyone together and escorted them to the sand where the ceremony was held. Once I saw that everyone was gathered. My oldest son escorted me out.

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I was surprised at the about the amount of people that were attending. Considering our background and our friends and our request of “Come as you are”. I was laughing and smiling because I was so happy it looked more like a cross between a funeral and a circus than a wedding.

Seeing Kyle out there on the sand in his white leopard print jacket, his mohawk perfect looking so handsome, waiting for me sent chills down my spine. The nuptials we selected were not exactly traditional. We wanted something that went with our personality and suitable for everyone’s beliefs. We have always been very neutral people and wanted to be all inclusive.

We had no idea it would bring tears to everyone’s eyes including our minister.  After we exchanged vows. We paraded back to the house to commence the reception. We involved a lot of the usual traditions, toast, bouquet toss, garter throw, first dance and cake cutting.

Ultimately we leaned more toward the back yard party feel complete with a live band (Fox and the Red Hares) They even learned the song Kyle had serenaded me with the night of the proposal, which he sang for all our guests.

Once the cake cutting was done, guests slowly started to trickle out but the party continued on with most of our close friends until later on when it started to rain again. Thus bringing a wrap on the night.

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BRIDE DESIGNER: Roxxanne Zidell
Instagram: Roxannehollywood

GROOM DESIGNER: Kyle Zemblidge
Instagram: Kz Anrchy

HOW MANY PEOPLE ATTENDED: 80

WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER: SalvatoreJ.Baxter

HAIR / MAKE UP: Mana Afshar @inkedoutcast

DID YOU DO FOOD: In our live music scene street vendor tacos are a common thing. We wanted to incorporate that in the day. My maid of honor offered to pay for it as a wedding gift.

WHAT DID THE BRIDESMAIDS WEAR: I only had a maid of honor. She wore a dress made by my dressmaker of fabric similar to the pattern on my dress.

 

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BUDGET SAVING IDEAS: There were a number of things we did to cut corners on our budget. Quite a few things just happened to work out in our favor. Originally we were going to rent a community center. However a friend offered us her house. It was also more in line with the punk, backyard party theme.

My maid of honor offered as a wedding gift to pay the food vendor. To save her  the cost of food, we had the vendor provide the tacos and condiments, while my mother and I made side dishes. Another friend, who is a baker, provided the cakes as a wedding gift as well.

Working in the live music scene I select one of my oldest and favorite bands to play. By coincidence one of the members also had tables, chairs and linens at his disposal and lent them to us for a minimal fee.

The dressmaker is an old friend from when I used to focus on art more than music. She offered to make the dress at minimal cost as well.
I visited the thrift stores often in search of favors and decorations. I found more than I expected including a brand new in package pillow for the rings. I went to the local dollar store and stocked up on chrome plastic cutlery, silver, and gold paper plates and fancy napkins.

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ANY TIPS ON GIFT IDEAS HOW TO HANDLE THIS: Our friends offered services for the wedding as gifts. I was ambivalent at first, but found it very helpful as I was incredibly overwhelmed with the planning.

DID YOU DO WEDDING FAVOURS: I bought old school plastic clam type hearts at the thrift store ( I found a few bags of never used ones) and filled them with the traditional wedding mints. I ordered heart shaped stickers with our hashtag (#monroehawk)on them and put one on each heart. My younger son made home made caramels and handed them out as well.

TIPS FOR FUTURE BADASS BRIDES: If your friends want to help you, let them. You need to understand while this is your big day and you have a certain vision for it, you have to extend your friends a little trust. Also the more time you allow for planning, the better, because you are going to make it easier on your budget if you stock up on items along the way, instead of buying everything all at once.

 

LOVE KAT & KYLE

XXX

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